Would You Like a More Fulfilling Relationship?
Relationships are often bittersweet... Our partners can both be a source of great love and affection, and intense anger and disappointment.
Once the honeymoon period is over our passion for each other might begin to wane, we might become more distant, and we may sometimes feel more like enemies, than like friends... Attempts to express our needs may lead to fights rather than changes, and we may end up questioning if the benefits of staying together really outweigh the drawbacks...
- Do you feel like something is missing from your relationship?
- Do you seem to rehash the same old arguments over and over?
- Do you fear that you are slowly drifting away from each other and that your love is slowly dying?
- Do you feel resentful or hurt about past betrayals or disappointments?
- Do you feel like you have already tried everything and are you losing hope that things can change?
If so, it might be time to see a couples therapist:
Get the help of a professional who can help you and your partner get back on track...
What is Couples Therapy?
Couples Therapy is a systematic way to look at all the dimensions needed to have a strong and healthy relationship.
- A strong friendship: feeling connected emotionally and knowing each other's inner worlds...
- Good communication: The ability to dialogue about problems, recover from fights, and accept influence from your partner...
- Shared meaning: Agreement about where the relationship is headed, and the ability to create meaningful rituals for how we - as a couple - do things...
- The ability to trust: The ability to be emotionally and sexually committed to your partner and open yourself up emotional, physically, and sexually...
The Secret to Fighting Less:
Learn how you can stop the vicious cycle of fighting that turns couples into enemies and leads to distance and distress...
What Happens in Couples Therapy?
Your couples therapist will take a quite active role in the first sessions and will make sure that each of you get to share what has been on your mind. In the beginning your therapist will ask very specific questions about the many areas of a healthy relationship. Your therapist will help you get an overview of your relationship strengths and areas of improvement, and will give you a road map for how to move forward. In sessions, you will learn techniques for communicating differently and will practice new ways of interacting and relating. Your therapist will guide you to become more honest and open in your communication with your partner, while respecting your need for emotional safety.
Choosing a Couples Therapist:
Choosing a couples therapist can be anxiety-provoking: How do you know who will be the right fit for you? How do you know who is best qualified to help you with your particular concerns?
- Choose a therapist with training in couples therapy:
- Not every therapist offering couples counseling has received specialized training in couples and marriage counseling. I believe that to work effectively with couples, a therapist needs more than simply intuition. To offer my clients the best, I have received formal training in two of the most effective couples counseling approaches: Gottman Method Couples Counseling, and Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy.
- Make an informed decision:
- A good way to judge if a couples therapist will be right for you is to see if their ideas about marriage and relationships make sense to you. I don't expect you to choose me blindly, so I provide lots of free resources on my website and my blog so you can familiarize yourself with how I think and form your own opinion before scheduling an appointment.
Insights from Couples Therapy:
Want to find out what couples therapists know about successful relationships?
Here is a selection of articles from my therapy blog that will teach you skills you can start implementing today!
"The Happy Couple": Lessons Learned from Couples Therapy
What distinguishes couples who stay together from couples whose relationships turn sour? Here are some lessons learned from couples therapy...> Read full article